I will buy from you my ‘peace of mind’

Some parents give their children whatever they desire and lavishly bestow on them materialistic things thinking: "Take what you want and just let me be"!

The father/mother occupy themselves with work and fulfilling their ambitions, and in their free time occupy themselves with relationships with friends, social media and whatever else the parents find more enjoyment in than raising children.

He is busy, but he loves his son and is ‘concerned' for him... He expresses his love and ‘care’ through gifts and material luxuries.

My son asks me for something that is not in his best interest... To explain to him why, convince him, and provide him with the right alternative... is a difficult and "boring" process and the child is obstinate...

So take what you want, son... I will buy from you my ‘peace of mind’ and my time through this device that distracts you from me, so that I may invest my time more enjoyably than arguing with you!

These parents may appear ‘loving’ and doting towards their children, when in fact they are ruining them!

I am afraid that the statement of the Prophet ﷺ: "It is sufficient sin for a man that he neglects those whom he maintains." includes not only those who do not provide their children with the food and clothing they require, but also includes those who destroy them by giving them everything they want to spare themselves the effort of education and guidance!

Ibn al-Qayyim - may Allah have mercy on him - said in [Tuhfat Al-Mawlud]:

"How many have ruined both the Dunya and Akhirah for their child, their own blood, by neglecting him and abandoning his discipline and helping him fulfill his desires, while he claims that he has honored him when, in fact, he has insulted him, and claims to be showing mercy to the child when he has, in fact, done him an injustice and deprived him of goodness."

When you deprive your child of something he desires, explain it to him thus: ‘Oh my dear child, I can give you this device that you ask for, and you and I shall both be at ease for a short term, but it is not in your interest, and I am not giving it to you for your own good, because I love you and care about you. Giving your child whatever he wants is ‘sometimes’ an indication of neglect my dear child. It is not you who should envy your friends for their materialistic things, but rather it is them who should envy you for the care shown to you by your father.'